Your child is a child of the light – and you carry the responsibility for it

23.2.2026

Autor: Tobias O. R. Alke · mit Claude (Anthropic)

A standpoint, not an encyclopedia entry. An essay by Tobias Alke (with AI support) – developmental psychology connected with the worldview-based view of the Kyborg Institute. No medical, psychological or pedagogical advice. Background knowledge: encyclopedia entries Consciousness and mind, Reincarnation and Empathy.

What developmental psychology and the view of the Kyborg Institute say together about upbringing, identity and the potential of our children.

Tobias O. R. Alke | Kyborg Institut & Research Based on: Identitätsbildung und Verantwortung gegenüber unseren Kindern, Kyborg Publishing 2016 (ISSN 2366-3839)

“We are giants who were raised by dwarves. That is why we have got used to walking around with a stoop.” — D. Harald Alke, founder of the Kyborg Institute

AI illustration (Gemini)

Your child is no empty shell

There is a question that changes everything – and that is rarely asked: not What must I give my child?, but: What do I not take away from it?

From our worldview-based view, your child comes into the world as a cosmic being – with faculties of perception that we as adults have long unlearned, with a prosocial basic attitude, perhaps even with experiences from earlier incarnations. The task of conscious parenthood is not to “build up” the child, but to accompany it in arriving – without destroying what it has brought along. As above, so below.

1. The early-fading faculties of your baby

Your newborn is a perception specialist, whose faculties in the first months of life often go beyond what we adults still know:

• Seeing: 3–4 month old babies perceive fine differences of colour and light (Yang et al. 2015, cited in Sanders 2016).
• Face recognition: 6 month old babies distinguish subtle differences between monkey faces – at 9 months no longer (Pascalis/de Haan/Nelson 2002).
• Language: at 6–7 months babies perceive the finest linguistic nuances, which they lose again at about one year (Werker et al. 1981).
• Touch: 4 month old children localise touches more precisely than two months later (Ali/Spence/Bremner 2015).

Why do these faculties fade? Not primarily because the children “mature”, but because they adapt – they focus on what is significant in their surroundings. Our founder D. Harald Alke describes that he later had to regain his own sensitive faculties laboriously through Kundalini Yoga. That is his spiritual reading of what the research measures in the laboratory.

“We are giants who were raised by dwarves.” That is no reproach, but an invitation: what would be possible if we did not diminish our children, but accompanied them in their greatness?

2. Your child is by nature oriented towards connection

Already 15 month old children show a sense for fairness and real sharing – even when they would have to give up their favourite toy (Schmidt/Sommerville 2011). The child comes, so our conviction, into the world as a being of the heart – oriented towards connection, compassion and community. What becomes of that is a question of upbringing, of the caregivers and – for those who go the spiritual way – of the consciousness-work of the parents themselves.

“From joy all creation springs, from joy it comes, to joy it presses, into joy it returns.” — Mundaka Upanishad

3. How identity arises – and why you play the main role

The sociologist George Herbert Mead (1934/2013) describes how children build up their personality through social interaction – via the imitative play (the child imitates what it sees in you), the organised play (it learns the rules of the group) and the “generalised other” (the voices of the community become an inner instance). Mead describes the horizontal level of identity; D. Harald Alke adds, from his view, the vertical dimension: what a child brings along from earlier incarnations. The self of your child is – so the Kyborg view – greater than it at first seems.

4. Goffman’s stage – family life as theatre play

Erving Goffman (1959/2009) describes social life as a stage play with a public façade and a backstage. For parents that is illuminating:

The Kyborg Institute calls this innermost backstage the heart-lotus – the space that opens when you stop playing and begin to be. No question of perfection, but of the centre.

5. The paradox of adaptation

Children partly restrict their faculties of perception voluntarily, in order to belong. The flip side: they adapt not only to your strengths, but also to your fears and beliefs. Whoever believes that life is dangerous teaches their child fear; whoever holds self-care to be egoism teaches it to neglect itself. And conversely: whoever works on their own consciousness widens the space of possibility of the child. As within, so without.

6. The atmosphere of the family space

Many parents sense it: there are days on which the family harmonises, and days on which everything becomes harder. The Kyborg Institute has occupied itself since 1976 with the atmosphere of spaces and people. The Horus energy pyramids are understood, in this view, as tools that can support a calm, harmonious family space. That is a worldview-based view and no promise of healing: sleep problems, quarrels or restlessness of children belong first to be observed attentively and, if necessary, accompanied medically or pedagogically.

“The energy pyramids were given to you in order to overcome the current difficulties, for that requires a steady stream of cosmic energy.” — channelled message of Horus

7. Frequent questions of conscious parents

“Have I traumatised my child because I sometimes shout?” — Not the single event shapes, but recurring patterns over time. Decisive are repair and awareness: when you come back after an outburst, explain yourself and go into connection again, you model emotional intelligence.

“Why does my teenager withdraw?” — They develop an own identity apart from the family – developmentally normal and necessary. Children open themselves most readily to people who are in their own centre.

“I feel only as a mother now – where have I gone?” — You are a mother and an independent being. Love is no finite store; it carries when giving and receiving are in balance. Where no exchange, there no cohesion.

“How do I protect the natural faculties of my child?” — Work on your own consciousness; open the “heart-lotus”; allow conflicts instead of forcing harmony; conscious practices such as pranayama or Energy Training (see Methods) – even a few minutes daily change the quality of presence.

The actual message: you are the key

Mead, Goffman, infant research and the Kyborg Institute say it each in their own way: your child brings much along. Your task is not to erase this richness, but to protect it – not to force, but to hold space. That begins not with the child, but with you.

“If we succeed in prompting a human to a little more insight – then very much has already succeeded!” — D. Harald Alke

As above, so below. ♾️❤️🌿🔥

Note: This article renders a personal, worldview-based view and refers to developmental-psychological research. It is no medical, psychological or pedagogical advice. Scientific basis: Tobias O. R. Alke (2016), „Identitätsbildung und Verantwortung gegenüber unseren Kindern“, Kyborg Publishing (ISSN 2366-3839).